How To Give The Best Erotic Massage – Step By Step
Erotic massage is sensual, uplifting, and can be done without any sexual intercourse for an evening of heightened pleasures and togetherness. Deep sensual massage is a way to bond with your partner and experience a multitude of emotions and sensations while spending time together.
The best massages are given when your partner is placed on a massage table, but if this isn’t possible then a bed will do. Prepare the area to be clean, cozy, and comfortable. Warmth is an added bonus. Throw a soft blanket in the dryer for a little while if it is during a cool season, if not this step can be skipped. Start with a soothing massage on the body. The back is a great choice, but legs and arms are surprisingly receptive to tingles and those great sensitive feeling sensations. The idea is to make your partner aroused, so tease their most sensitive areas without actually getting too “involved.”
This guide will highlight how to you can tease the body and senses and bring your partner to multiple orgasms and the ultimate sensual experience.
Massage Environment Is Key
The environment in which you choose to massage is very important. The room should be free of clutter, clean, and comfortable. Not too hot or cold depending on the weather outside. Turn off all electronics except for a music player. Turn off the television, cell phones, and any other distracting devices. This will allow you both to free your mind and get in the zone.
Candles that are nicely fragranced are wonderful. Jasmine, ylang ylang, vanilla, and warm fragrances are generally seen as stimulating and can bring forth arousal. Choose the fragrances you know your partner prefers, or none at all if they are allergic to fragrance.
Choosing A Lubricating Oil
An oil is a must. This will be used on the body and possibly inside the body. You should choose a nature and safe oil that can be used internally without any irritation or discomfort. Many fragranced oils for massage are risky for inside the genitals or even on top of them. No fragrance is best. Water based is best for inside the body, while the skin can use an oil based massage lubricant.
Always avoid just dousing the body with cold massage oil. Warm it between your hands first or use a warming device to heat the liquid to a desired temperature. It is extremely rude to pour cold fluid on your partner, unless they prefer that. Don’t do it unless you want the entire evening ruined.
Starting The Massage
Start off by massaging the entire body, head to toe. You can start with the feet and work your ways up, or start at the shoulders. Spend a little time in each area caressing, kissing, stroking, and possibly working out any painful kinks they have in muscles. If you are massage a woman, tease the areas around her nipples but do not touch the nipples.
This will drive her crazy and make her want more of your touch. Remember, in the beginning it is very important to focus on gentle touch and teasing sensations.
Work your way down the abdomen, stroking and rubbing oil into the skin. When you reach the genital area, stroke the thighs and area around her vagina. If you are a woman massaging a man, gently tease his penis to make it erect. Slide your hand up and down the shaft gently, only enough to tease. If you feel inclined to do so, give it a little lick, and move down to the legs.
Massaging the legs is quite an interesting practice. The knee and backs of the knee are usually quite sensitive and can make the body feel undeniable passion. Try this on your partner to see how they react.
Sexual Massage For Men and Women
Male Massage
Men are fairly simple creatures, and arousing them is a bit easier than arousing women and getting women to climax. If you are not experienced with his body, then try different things to see what he responds to the most. If you are experienced, then do what comes naturally, plus a few extra little things.
The best way to make pleasure feel the best is to stop or slow down just before he cums. You do not want this to be over in 2 minutes or less. Repeatedly “almost reaching” climax will not only strengthen his ability to last longer during sex, but also encourage undeniable pleasure.
Men usually like kinky sex talk. If yours doesn’t, then ignore this step. If your man enjoys sex talk, then whisper sexually suggestive things to him. Moan while licking up and down his shaft and act like you enjoy it! Better yet, learn to enjoy it so that you don’t have to act.
Stroke Suggestions:
Healing Stroke is a nice simple stroke that is relaxing and pleasurable. Cup the balls gently with one hand and slide your hand up the shaft, then back down. Repeat at the desired intensity.
Anvil Stroke is an interesting motion that requires a bit of effort on your part. You start at the top and stroke down, then use the other hand to repeat the motion in a continuous moderate speed pattern.
Climbing The Mountain is the term for when you hold the penis gently and caress it however you please then stroke up and down quickly. This repeated motion combination can bring him to orgasm quickly, so be careful when using this technique. You could also choose to do this at the end of the massage so that he can reach orgasm at full strength.
Female Massage
For a female erotic massage you will need some preparation and possibly a few toys. While giving a great massage doesn’t require anything special, it can be a phenomenal massage with a few little tricks.
Women are emotional creatures, and not saying a word while massaging isn’t going to be very engaging. Talk to her romantically or very sexually, however she prefers, while you warm her up. G-Spot stimulation and clitoral stimulation are important as these are essentially the only ways a female will ever orgasm. The G-spot can provide long lasting deep orgasms, while clitoral orgasm is shorter lived and over with quickly. Dual-stimulation orgasms are often the best of both worlds and can be extremely powerful.
Female orgasms can take some time to build up. Be prepared to spend at least 20 minutes working on her. Some women are faster and some are longer, but if you want it to feel great, then longer is always better.
Unlike men, it is easy for women to have multiple orgasms in close succession, but some women experience discomfort after the first orgasm. So be sure to ask your partner if you should continue. This is a rare occurrence but it is possible.
This is where we get to the fun part. There are so many different ways to go about giving an amazing erotic massage that it can be hard to know which route to take. When you reach this point in the massage, moving to a different position is important. Place her on a bed with a lot of big fluffy pillows. This sounds silly but it is in fact, a fantastic idea. Large pillows that provide support around the body and the legs can ease muscle strain and allow her to completely relax. This technique is taught in many sex workshops, and has been proven to work exceptionally well.
A few additional prop tips:
- A blindfold is excellent for sensory deprivation stimulation. She can feel and hear but not see.
- A gag. This is a little kinky, but it can work if this is what you are both interested in. A gag will prevent her screams from being overly loud, an excellent choice if you live with others or in an apartment.
- A sex blanket. These blankets are designed to absorb liquids and prevent bedding or floors from getting messy. This allows her to let loose and not be afraid of making a mess!
- Rolling pins that are gently spiked. These are a toy used in sensory play and great for after orgasm.
- Bullet vibrator toys.
- G-Spot vibrator toys with multi-speed selection via remote control.
After positioning her, part the lips of her vagina gently and work your fingers around the outside. This teasing feeling will drive her crazy and prepare her for what is to come. You may want to flick your tongue around her opening a little to get her worked up even more. A little oral stimulation never hurts.
Work one finger into her vagina slowly, while wiggling it in an upwards curve. The g-spot is usually located on the upper area a few inches inside the vagina. Interestingly enough, this is usually the spot that the middle or index finger will reach naturally. Stroke this area while licking or rubbing the clitoris in a circular motion. Dual stimulation is key for powerful orgasms.
After a few minutes of teasing and stroking, you can insert more fingers. Two fingers usually feel best, but some women may be able to tolerate up to 3 fingers. Two fingers stroking in a continuous motion often feels powerful and a lot like penetration by a penis. You can continue licking her clitoris in a fast motion if you prefer. Between different techniques, be sure to rub her thighs, belly, and breasts. Massaging other parts of the body while getting a genital massage is something women usually crave. You can also say sexy things to her while doing this to make her crazier. Women are emotional creatures. Remember that.
Vibrators are excellent if you want to take it a step further. It can be difficult to keep your fingers tightly cramped in a small space. This is where vibrators come in handy. A ribbed multi-speed toy is great for multiple sensations. Be sure it is curved to stimulate the g-spot.
Tips For Using Vibrators:
- Drive her crazy and don’t let her choose the speed.
- Up the speed to full power and then lower it at uneven intervals.
- Women will feel like reaching orgasm but won’t actually reach it. This feeling is powerful and overwhelming, but it feels fantastic to them. Keep the power going.
- If you are using clitoral stimulation with a vibrator, choose a small bullet. These are tiny and can have dozens of speeds. Experiment with different areas around the clitoris. The top of it is often very sensitive, but underneath and around the edges of it also feel sensational.
- If she says harder, you should listen.
- If she asks you to slow down in a playful manner, you probably shouldn’t. Women often become very sensitive and it feels “too good.” Chose a phrase she can say if she truly wants you to stop what you are doing to her body!
Continue for as long as it takes. There are dozens of combinations you can do, but it is important to always remain engaged and interested in what she desires. Pleasure her, and treat her like she is a princess. You will be rewarded by a powerful orgasm and seeing a beautiful face expressing the greatest pleasure a female can receive.
Concluding The Massage
At the end of a females orgasm, you can either cuddle and wrap her in a soft blanket, or stroke her body. After powerful orgasms the body is extremely sensitive to any kind of touch. A favorite of many is to use a spiked wheel that gently pricks the body. This will allow the orgasm afterglow to continue.
Whatever the case, conclude the massage with kisses and gently caresses. Bring her down from cloud 9 gently. You can then sleep together or shower and go about whatever you prefer to do!
